I have to admit it has been a busy and fun summer and I haven’t had much time to spare to write. The summer has been fantastic for both myself and the kids, the hot weather here in Ottawa certainly helped for sure and the cool breeze we had on our trip in Newfoundland was certainly bit of relief from that heat.
Today is Wednesday and to most that is called hump day, the middle of the week, and so on. To me it is truly my favorite day of the week, reason being is that it is the day I get to pick up the kids from their mom and spend time with them. Being in a co-parenting relationship certainly has its perks, you have additional freedom when the kids are with the other parent and of course you have that quality time with the kids when it is your turn. I have my two with me 50% of the time and love every single second of it. I am the type of dad that doesn’t want to miss a thing and when my kids are with me there is no event that will tear me away from them (hence I don’t get babysitters). As far as I am concerned this is our time together, the rest of the world can wait.
I was actually having a conversation with a friend of mine about this today. While we were chatting she mentioned that not all dad’s have the same attitude as me. I was quite surprised and a little saddened to hear that, she mentioned that there are dad’s that don’t share my attitude about their kids. My response to her was quite simple “Those dads are the ones that haven’t yet realized how important the time you have with your kids are”. There are people out there that manage to find other priorities out there instead of their kids and unfortunately for them in the long run you are only hurting yourself. You see I have a niece back home in Newfoundland, she is the same age as my son and her mother (my sister) passed away after a long battle with cancer when my niece was just little more than three years old. She was an amazing person and mom to that little girl (and still is wherever her spirit is), she dedicated herself to her daughter and as I see my kids go through things (first day of school, losing a tooth, etc) as happy as I am to see these things as a dad, as a brother I am sad knowing that my sister who loved her daughter more than anything in the world isn’t there to see her daughter have these experiences. So for me to hear that there are truly parents out there that take these things for granted, whether for careers, stress, or just plain not having an interest in their child or children I really had to take a step back. How can that even be possible? Do they not realize that this could all be taken away from them in an instant??
I guess my reason for sharing this today is the hope that maybe some people read it, some share it, and maybe just maybe it will reach a person that needs to hear it. You need to hold on to every single special moment you have with those you love especially your children because someday it could be taken away. So to all the fathers out there, I know most who read this blog have the same attitude as mine, and to those who don’t I hope you can change yours before it is too late, go upstairs right now and hug that son or daughter of yours. Tell them that their dad loves them more than anything in the world and remember to make everyday your favorite day.