What a Week!!


Well to quote my title what a week it has been!! First off I want to acknowledge the successful launch of the the CHEO blog for moms and dads. This is a blog that has so many fantastic contributors, writing fantastic posts for parents in the Ottawa area and I am so happy and honored to be included with these great bloggers. You can see the blog at the following link cheomoms.com and find myself and some other great people contributing their stories and advice for you to enjoy and learn from.

I also had the honor and privilege to see two of the happiest and nicest people I know celebrate their third anniversary together and to the surprise of one of them we got to share in a great marriage proposal (which of course was accepted). As I mentioned before this couple has to be one of the nicest and happiest couple I have ever met. They are the type of people that no matter what the issue, what is going on, wherever you are, if you need them they will answer the call and never hesitate to do so. They are also two people that I am proud and honored to call friends.

Watching this couple evolve and go through the ups and downs of the modern relationship has been a learning experience for me. In this day and age most of the people that get together have a much different set up than years ago, you see the majority of couples that are out there now may have former spouses, children, and a host of other things that the old traditional family didn’t really see. When people get together now in a relationship there are a lot of factors to consider compared to the past and with that comes questions that need to be answered.

When should I introduce my kids to this person?

How will this person be once we have committed ourselves to a relationship?

Will we be able to accept the new roles as step parent?

Do we have the same attitude and values towards parenting?

There are so many other questions and this list could go on but I am assuming you get the picture. The problem with these questions is that there are no easy answers, and I personally think that you have to learn as you go and sometimes mistakes can be made. Fortunately life is a learning experience and although all of the answers may never present themselves the lessons learned will make a person stronger and smarter.

To go back to my friends, I have seen them go through the ups and downs and each time they have learned from the experience and their bond has gotten stronger through each challenge they have faced. They both have children from previous marriages and have done an amazing job of working together with all of the children and have managed to be able to co-parent as well (with the odd issue but it seems to work out for the best).

So my final note to these two amazing people, congratulations. I couldn’t be more happy and more proud of the both of you (I also can’t wait for the wedding, it will be a blast). You both have found what so many people look for in life and you will make an amazing husband and wife combination.

All the best 🙂

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Oh Daughters


So I have been spending the majority of this blog sharing experiences about my son, life in general, and sometimes both of my kids.  This time around I wanted to dedicate something to my amazing little girl, she is my pride and joy (as well as my son) but she also scares me half to death.

 

I am not sure about the differences in girls and boys but I am certainly learning as I go.  My daughter is 4 years old and I like to say that she will be turning 16 on her next birthday.  She is so sharp and catches onto things so fast it is scary, hence I am scared to death.  For dads dealing with a son is pretty easy, you play sports with them and when they fall down they get right back up because they are supposed to be tough.  Little girls on the other hand are daddy’s little angels and in most cases they know it!!  My daughter is no different, she is absolutely beautiful and the most beautiful little girl in the world in my opinion.  The problem with this is she knows it and she knows she has daddy wrapped around her little finger, no matter how many times I deny it to her LOL!!

 

So for all the dads out there I wonder if you are all in the same boat as me.  I think we are all the same way with our daughters and no matter what happens as they get older they will always be daddy’s little girl.  As they get older they will most likely fight with dad a lot more once boys enter the picture, I sincerely hope that my daughter will forgive me the first time a boy comes to the door and I put the fear of God into him!!  I also hope she is ok with it every other time a boy comes to the door in general!!  

 

Maybe I will relax about these types of things as I get older but as I mentioned before our daughters are our little angels and as their fathers we are supposed to be their protector, friend, and the person they turn to when they need that big hug or shoulder to cry on.  Of course these are roles that all dads should be proud to take on with moms as well, but that protector role seems to be meant for dads.  I remember in my teens when I started dating girls running into those over protective dads and how we feared them and sometimes made fun of them (when they were nowhere nearby of course).  I remember how embarrassed the girls were about their crazy dad, and how their dad’s made seeing boys very challenging to say the least.  Back then I wondered why these dads were like this, and who would have thought it but 20 years later I have visions of myself turning into that dad!!  Oh well I guess the old saying is what goes around comes around!!

 

I just hope that as the years go by that my daughter knows how much her dad loves her and how amazing, beautiful, smart, funny, and great she is.  Part of my job is to constantly remind her of that and I am more than happy to take on that task because as I said before no matter how old she is or what she does she will always be my beautiful little angel.

 

All the best

 

By the way I will be writing another blog shortly as a contributor for parental advice in the Ottawa area.  My first post is in and the site will be going live on September 10th.  I will post the link as soon as it is up and running.