So as I was going through Facebook the other day a friend of mine posted her status “Just keep swimming, just keep swimming! Dory had it right”. I have to say after the past few weeks I would have to agree with her (both my friend and Dory). It has certainly been a challenging few weeks both in the media and on a personal side but as our lovely Finding Nemo friend reminds us “Just Keep Swimming”.
First off in the news the past few weeks we have been shocked and saddened by a few stories such as the events that unfolded last night in New York when a mother came home to find that her Nanny had killed her two kids and herself. A fellow blogger I know wrote a post about it this evening and I felt that instead of me writing about it you should read her take by copying and pasting this link:
On a more personal note I have been dealing with a few issues with my son and myself (I am currently in a cast for the next 4 to 6 weeks with a fractured bone and sprained ankle and really not too happy about it) recently. My son has been having some issues at school and it got serious enough that I had to go and get him from school on Wednesday and his mom had to go and get him on Thursday. The challenge with trying to get to the root of the problem with my son is that he really doesn’t tell you much and I say sometimes that getting information out of him is like pulling teeth. I certainly worry about this because as he gets older he is going to face tougher challenges and how he learns and adapts are going to determine the person he is going to become as he gets older. Both his mom and I work very hard with him and we of course will continue to do so, fortunately we are working with the school and his EAs and they really do seem to care for him and want him to be a success.
He will have his good days and bad days and we are getting pretty good and knowing when the bad days are going to happen. For example on Thursday I knew it was going to be a bad day, I dropped the kids off at the school for the before school club and everything was fine. As I was heading towards work I looked and saw that my daughter left her princess water bottle in the car, so I headed back to the school. When I got there I see my daughter crying and discover that my son and her were playing a game and she knocked over his cups and he retaliated by knocking over her’s and happened to hit her at the same time.
I took my son for a walk outside the school to talk to him about what happened and kind of give him a restart to the day. That worked perfectly!! He was happy and ready to go back in and play with his Lego, then tragedy struck. He ran towards his Lego and banged his hip right off of a desk and hit the floor, again I ran in and brought him out to the school kitchen and put an ice pack on his hip and tried to calm him down. Again he was calm and ready to face the day, but I knew full well with so much chaos starting off his day something was bound to happen at school. I called their mom and gave her the heads up and sure enough he had a melt down halfway through the day.
So today was a bit of a better day but overall it has been a very rough week for him, so keeping in the theme of my title I am going to take this weekend and have a reset with my son and daughter. I decided to treat the kids to Ray’s Reptile Zoo tomorrow and go shopping for birthday gifts. I am figuring that will be a fun filled day and should give my son the much needed reset he needs so that he can keep swimming next week at school.
There are always going to be challenges to face with both my son and daughter over the years and that is what parents sign up for and I wouldn’t have it any other way. The secret to surviving it is to enjoy the good and get through the bad and learn from it. Each challenge we face makes us stronger if we let the negative get us down we will never be able to enjoy the positives we see in life. So Dory may not have realized it but those simple words “Just Keep Swimming” are actually really good advice!! Keep the positives in your mind, work through the negatives, and always know if you just keep swimming you will get to that happy destination you are looking for!!
All the best!!